Le Patron de l’Enfer

Si vous avez travaillé depuis quelques années, il est probable que vous ayez eu un patron difficile. Alors qu’ils prennent des formes et tailles différentes, ces superviseurs peuvent provoquer l’anxiété, la frustration, la colère, et la douleur pour ses employés. Quand cela se passe, certaines personnes choisissent de changer d’emploi. Si ce n’est pas une option pour vous, pour une raison quelconque, ou si vous appréciez votre travail et que vous ne voulez pas passer à autre chose juste parce que vous travaillez avec quelqu’un de problématique, il existe quelques techniques qui pourraient être en mesure de vous aider et qui pourraient rendre votre vie professionnelle plus agréable. Gardez à l’esprit que vous devrez essayer de contrôler les émotions et refouler la forte envie de réagir dans une manière peu professionnelle.

#1 – Ne vous sentez pas visé :

Tant que vous faites tout ce que vous devez faire, sachez que les réactions difficiles de votre patron n’ont rien à voir avec vous.

Il est facile à dire que vous ne devez pas vous sentir visé, et beaucoup plus difficile d’appliquer cette mentalité dans une situation de tous les jours. Une réaction plus courante est d’avoir une réponse émotionnelle, ou de contenir tous les sentiments au lieu de les exprimer. Retenez vos émotions lorsque vous êtes dans la présence de votre patron, puis prenez une pause salle de bains ou une pause-café pour vider votre tête.

#2 – Maintenez une limite appropriée :

Tant que les limites au bureau sont toujours importantes, elles sont encore plus essentielles lorsque vous travaillez avec un patron difficile. Que votre patron ait tendance à être critique, à l’écart, ou de partager trop, le maintien des limites est une étape importante pour réussir à gérer la situation. Assurez-vous que vous n’avez que des conversations professionnelles et, si possible, que vous interagissez avec votre patron uniquement quand vous le souhaitez.

N’oubliez pas que vous ne pouvez être responsable que de vous-même. Bien que votre patron puisse vous mettre en colère et vous donner envie de vous arracher les cheveux, vous ne pouvez pas changer la personne qu’elle est. La seule personne que vous pouvez changer, c’est vous-même.

#3 – Maintenez un certain détachement :

Lorsque vous parlez avec votre patron problématique, ne lui demandez pas comment va sa journée. Cela ne fera que lui donner l’opportunité de parler des sujets qui ne sont pas directement liés au travail (ce qui n’est pas ce que vous voulez). En maintenant un caractère impersonnel dans vos relations, cela vous aidera à garder la tête froide. Chaque situation, sans exception, ne fera qu’empirer si vous réagissez émotionnellement, surtout si vos émotions sont fortes et négatives. Quand chaque conversation se concentre sur un sujet spécifique ou est liée au travail,  il est beaucoup moins probable que vous alliez perdre les pédales à cause de vos agacements continus.

#4 – Maintenez votre niveau d’exigence élevé :

Il peut être tentant de négliger vos tâches quand votre patron est difficile. Toutefois, cela n’est pas une manière dont on devrait se comporter : vous risquez d’aggraver la situation et de donner une mauvaise impression de vous-même.

D’autre part, si vous faites du bon travail et vous continuez à faire vos tâches du mieux que vous pouvez, même si votre patron vous surcharge, il ne peut pas vous donner du fil à retordre.

#5 – Ne jetez pas l’huile sur le feu :

Tout le monde a sa bête noire, y compris votre patron. Si votre patron est de mauvaise humeur, notez le bien et essayez de l’éviter. De cette manière, il est possible d’éviter une confrontation qui aurait autrement gâché votre journée et qui vous aurait laissé un goût amer. En outre, si votre patron fait quelque chose régulièrement qui vous ennuie, demandez lui  poliment d’arrêter.

 

#6 – Soyez proactif :

Dans une relation avec un patron difficile, il peut être facile de laisser les choses passer. Il est souvent plus facile d’éviter de parler des sujets difficiles que de les aborder, parce que vous craignez qu’après avoir parlé de ces sujets vous ne serez que déçu, blessé, et surtout en colère. Cependant, si vous choisissez de ne pas soulever ces sujets, surtout quand ils se rapportent aux tâches liés au travail, ne fera qu’empirer les choses plus tard.

Si vous avez besoin d’aborder quelque chose et que vous n’êtes pas sûr de savoir comment l’aborder, alors laissez votre patron choisir le moment et le lieu pour que la conversation ne soit pas forcée et pour qu’il n’y ait pas de gaucherie.  Faites-lui savoir que vous avez des questions, et dites-lui de quoi elles s’agissent. Assurez-vous que le sujet de la conversation reste liée au travail –   de cette manière la conversation pourrait être plus agréable que ce que vous aviez prévu.

 

#7 – Laissez votre stress au bureau :

A la fin de la journée, que ce soit une bonne ou une mauvaise journée, laissez votre stress au travail et profitez d’une soirée de détente. Cela vous aidera à atteindre un équilibre de vie entre le travail et la maison et vous aidera à rester en bonne santé physiquement et mentalement, malgré la situation difficile au bureau. Ne laissez pas votre patron ruiner votre vie personnelle.

En fin de compte, n’oubliez pas que cela ne vaut pas la peine de sacrifier votre santé à travailler pour une personne difficile. S’il n’y a pas de solution à votre problème qui vous permettrait de rester dans votre position actuelle, la meilleure option serait de commencer à chercher un nouvel emploi. Même si vous êtes fortement contre la recherche d’un nouvel emploi, n’oubliez pas que le bonheur et la santé sont étroitement liés, et vous pourriez être surpris de voir combien vous vous sentiriez mieux avec un nouveau travail.

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Social Media – Use It To Your Advantage

Social media tools such as Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn can be valuable resources in not only networking with people you already know, but also with expanding your network to others. The old aphorism “it’s not what you know, but who you know” is alive and well in the world of work, so use social media and your connections creatively, consciously, and above all carefully to put you in the best possible position for securing the job that you’re after.

Social media does carry dangers for the young professional. If you’re already privy to the various social networks out there, you’ll know that there are guidelines that must be followed.

For some, a personal page on a social media site, a blog, or a website may include information that isn’t necessarily appropriate for the workplace. Before interviewing, go through and analyze your online presence to determine whether a manager or recruiter would be accepting of the comments and images you have posted. If it doesn’t pass the “what would my Mum say?” check, then it’s best to remove that content.

Another idea is to Google yourself in order to ensure everything online reflects favorably upon the image you are trying to project to prospective employers. If you find content you’re not particularly proud of, develop a plan to be prepared for the problems this content may cause. For example, you may ask the person who posted the objectionable content to remove it because you are searching for a job. Some employers run these same Google searches as a part of their routine in the hiring process, so don’t be surprised if you are asked. It’s best to be proactive and prepared for such a situation.

Inside the working environment, there are other social media guidelines to adhere to. Keep in mind that your employer may have a social media policy in place. Some companies have very stringent social media guidelines and restrict or block access to sites like Facebook and Twitter. Others are more relaxed in their approaches to social media usage in the workplace. It is your responsibility to know your employer’s policy and abide by it.

Nonetheless, this is not to say that having several social media accounts is to be criticized or reflect badly on you. In fact, the reality is quite the opposite. Nowadays, employers are seen to favour those who are avid users of all social media, as these networking groups are fast becoming a regular source of new business for every successful company.

So get yourself on every available social network, use them to their full extent and be productive, efficient, informed, and cautious in the way your market yourself online.

 

Stay Motivated, Keep Focused, Achieve Your Goals.

We’ve heard it all before; the idea of getting a job in today’s economic climate is swiftly drifting out of reach. Although we’re tired of this sermon, it’s unfortunately the undeniable truth. But fear not! In this particularly practical piece, I’ll be helping YOU to “atteindre votre but”!

Whether you’re applying for a job, in between jobs, or finding it hard to draw inspiration from your current job, I’ll be providing some top tips for those needing to take that oh so important next step.

# 1 – Structure

Structure – a word which intrigues some and mystifies others. Yet no matter the life we lead, structure plays an incredibly important role in all of our quests to success. If you are someone who doesn’t rely on structure for a daily routine, you may be able to benefit from it hugely.

This doesn’t mean you’re up at the crack of dawn wheezing away in the gym. It simply means that areas in your life which you find stressful, frustrating, or worrying could be dramatically improved by you taking the initiative and adding a bit of….you guessed it…structure. By doing this, those dreaded areas may well become less so. Structure is all about things falling in to place at the right time, so try it out for yourself, add structure to a certain part of your life, and you could find that things start to fall into place for you….

#2 – Exercise:

Regular exercise can prove to have a hugely positive influence on those who choose to include it in their daily routines. Without getting too scientific, the hormones released by the brain from exercise cause significantly alleviated levels in overall happiness and well-being, as well as combatting numerous health conditions and diseases.

Find a sport that you like, a park nearby, a group of friends, a local sports centre, walk to work, sit on a Swiss Ball instead of an office chair, cycle instead of driving or taking public transport. Whatever it may be, gradually introduce it to fill up a regular spot in your free time, and you’ll reap benefits from this new feature in your day-to-day lifestyle.

#3 – Food:

Let’s face it – diets are boring and very difficult to stick to. However, it’s unquestionable that a healthy, balanced intake of food demonstrates drastic improvements in maintained energy levels, higher concentration, increased productivity, amongst many other benefits. Having this increased energy level and overall self-confidence will most certainly give you that extra willingness and motivation to strive for your own personal goals. Remember – everyone’s different, and not every plan you try will necessarily work for you. So stick to it and I promise you’ll find the right one which suits you and which could truly revolutionize your outlook on life.

#4 – Goal Setting:

Try setting yourself a few achievable goals. Of those goals, pick one to accomplish within the next year, and really focus on that. Now, pick one medium-term goal to achieve in the next few months that will get you further toward your longer-term goal. Now decide what you can do this week, and today, to get you to your medium-term goal. Just choose one thing at a time, focus on it, make it happen, and then choose the next thing to focus on. Little by little, you will achieve more and more things which you have wanted to for so long.

#5 – Create a morning and evening routine:

These are two great ways to introduce structure to your day, to make sure you review your goals and log your progress, and to get your day off to a great start. An evening routine, for example, could be a great way not only to wind down from a long day and review how your day went, but to prepare yourself for your next day so the morning isn’t so hectic. Your morning routine is a great way to greet the day, to get some exercise, meditation, quiet contemplation, or to get some writing or other work done. Whatever it may be, make sure you enjoy it.

#6 – Invest in yourself:

This is SO SO important when it comes to you attaining your goals and vision. Before you invest your money, time, or strength on a venture, first invest in yourself. You need a proper mindset. A poor man with a millionaire’s mind will soon become rich! If you want to win, train yourself to win. It’s a formula for success.

#7 – Get out of your comfort zone:

If you’re not a little bit uncomfortable on a daily basis, it means you’re not growing. Every aspect of physical and emotional growth arrives from outside of your comfort zone.  So be fearless sometimes. Have the courage to take the risks that feel right.  Go where there aren’t certainties.  Stretch yourself and your routines even if it means feeling a bit uncomfortable.

#8 – Ask lots of questions:

The greatest adventure is the ability to inquire, to ask questions.  Sometimes in the process of inquiry, the search is more significant than the answers.  Answers come from other people, from the universe of knowledge and history, and from your own intuition. These answers will never surface if you never ask the right questions. Pick someone you know whom you hold in high esteem, and ask them about anything and everything – their knowledge and advice could be crucial for you to succeed.

#9 – Maintain Focus:

One important key to achieving your goals is to maintain focus on them. To do this, again, it’s important that you select one goal at a time. This will prevent your focus from spreading too thin. It’s also important that you give yourself constant reminders of your goal, so you don’t lose that focus. Put up a poster of your current goal, or print it out and put it out somewhere visible, and send yourself emailed reminders. However you do it, find a way to maintain a laser-sharp focus, and the goal will come true.

#10 – Relaxation:

Achieving your goals simply isn’t possible without some downtime. A common misconception is that more work = better results. In fact, it can be quite the opposite – it can cause huge amounts of stress. Stress has been scientifically proven to lead to poor health, poor decision-making, poor thinking, and poor socialization.  So be attentive to your stress level and take short breaks when you need to.  Slow down.  Breathe.  Give yourself permission to pause, regroup, and move forward with clarity and purpose.  When you’re at your busiest, a few simple moments of stillness and tranquility can completely rejuvenate your mind and increase your productivity.  These short breaks will help you regain your focus, and allow you to reflect on your recent actions so you can be sure they’re in line with your goals.

How do the French work?

The French media were (unsurprisingly) up in arms last week when the American CEO of tyre company Titan, Maurice Taylor branded French workers to be lazy. Not only was this brash move highly unprofessional, it showed a severe lack of understanding of the French work culture. For those who are considering working in France, it is surprising how different the Anglo-Saxon and French cultures are. Therefore, it would be beneficial to acquaint yourself with a few of the basics before you make the move to France. For that reason, we’ve compiled a list of the main features of French work culture to help you out.

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The Package. As well as your salary, you are entitled to having 50% of your travel pass reimbursed. Larger companies will often offer either a subsidised canteen or tickets restaurants, worth about 6,50€ – 10€ that can be used in cafés, restaurants or supermarkets. You may also have access to company facilities such as a gym but this isn’t so commonplace. Most companies also have a mutuelle in place whereby they contribute towards a supplementary health coverage. The French are more clued-up about their rights than their Anglo-Saxon counterparts with full awareness of their obligations and entitlements so it is advisable you swot up on standard practices!

Hours and holidays. With the introduction of the 35-hour working week in 2000 alongside the generous holidays (5 weeks being the norm), it is a common misconception that the French have it easy. On the contrary, it is quite common to do overtime and despite the relatively low working hours, time and time again, the French have been named as the most productive workforce in the world.  The French abide by the work hard, play hard mantra placing high value on their work-life balance.

The Working Day.The average working day gets off to slow start with employees arriving from 9.30 to 10am. This first part of the day is usually taken up by reading emails, checking voicemails and preparing everything for the day ahead. The majority of the work will be done between 10 and 12 then 2 until 5 as the infamous long lunch breaks are still a staple part of the day. There is a growing trend for on-the-go lunches but for now, the lengthy lunch breaks reign supreme. The work tends to wind down towards the end of the day especially at the end of the week with early finishes on Friday being commonplace. The average clocking-off time is around 6 to 7pm.

Hierarchy. The hierarchical structure is rigorously adhered to in France. The boss at the top always has the final word; therefore major decisions cannot be made without their say-so. Keep your French formal, use the vous form and avoid use of colloquialisms. At meetings, the seating plan will clearly indicate the manager. Interaction between colleagues is generally on the formal side unless clearly stated otherwise.

Professional relationships.  When walking into the office first thing, you will greet all your colleagues individually either by shaking their hand or doing the French bises (kiss on either cheek) depending on your relationship with them. Colleagues usually keep working relationships purely professional as they tend not to interact with each other outside of the workplace. This maintains the divide between professionaland personal life. This however, does depend on the company and sector with certain companies encouraging employee interaction outside of work.

Of course, this is just an overview of French work culture and the day-to-day life in the workplace could differ depending on sector and company. Hopefully, our guide will have given you an idea of what to expect!

What are your impressions of French work culture? If you are French, what are your impressions of Anglo-Saxon work culture?